My Core Values
The following core values are reflecting the essence of my belief structure. Connecting and sharing is essential for establishing a link with others. Moreover, building relationships means opening up and finding common ground. Doing so ends up making the world a better place.
By sharing my core values, I’m focusing on attracting like minded individuals rather than convincing anyone of anything. With this in mind, spend a minute reviewing the following and reach out if you’re guided to do so.
. . . a large percentage of all physical problems have emotional roots. Some researchers believe that as many as half of all patients who visit physicians have physical symptoms that are directly caused by emotions; others think the figure is as high as 90 to 95 percent. (1)
- Every human being is dual-natured consisting of both body and spirit
- The physical body is the instrument through which our spirit acts
- All matter in the universe is sustained by a universal power or energy
- Feelings, thoughts, emotions and beliefs are energy and directly impact our well-being
Finding the Path to My Core Values
To begin, finding the path to my core values was seeming near impossible. Certainly, opening up was scary as was learning to trust myself. Moreover, letting go of long held behaviors is frustrating and at times disheartening.
To be sure, examining my attachments was causing a bumping up against myself. In fact, this was triggering my defenses and causing all kinds of feelings to rise up and out. Furthermore, surrendering my coping mechanisms was an ongoing faith and trust building experience.
Ironically, accepting my powerlessness over controlling others was, in essence, the key to discovering the path to my core values.
Beginning Without a Foundation
Starting out, I was living within a family dynamic without a foundation.
In short, alcoholism is a progressively addictive and destructive condition, manifesting as mental illness and compulsive behaviors resulting from alcohol dependency. Essentially, anyone playing their role within these sorts of dysfunctional family relationships are experiencing a constant stream of chaos and drama.
For me, it felt like continually sinking in quicksand and an ongoing sense of insecurity and inferiority.
Consequently, I was never remaining present for any length of time. To be specific, I was either resenting someone or something from the past or imbibing illusions of power and control regarding some future experience.
Indeed, at times, I was like a pendulum swinging back and forth between extremes. On the whole, I was constantly isolating myself and using several addictions as emotional anesthesia.
Even when achieving a goal, like graduating from university, it wasn't satisfying or exciting at all. Ironically, graduating from university brought into focus an impending sense of doom and of being hopelessly trapped.
Choice Points and Finding Focus
In hindsight, choice points are always a blessing. Often appearing in disguise, choice points are delivering an opportunity of finding focus and building a foundation.
The choice of deciding to change for the better is always there, and yet, sometimes we need a nudge to get the message. For instance, shortly after graduating from university I was receiving a perfectly orchestrated "nudge" in the form of a five car accident.
Steady pain has power in breaking down resistance, thus I became willing to take stock and look at my true nature. To be sure, this event was the first of many "nudges" I've ended up receiving along the way.
"You cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it"
As has been noted, connecting is essential in establishing a link with anyone, especially yourself. Indeed, out of a place of desperation I began reaching out and looking for new ways of living that brought any sense of relief and peace.
Physically, that meant seeking drug free solutions for body pain which eventually led me to receiving therapeutic bodywork. The astonishing relief of regular bodywork sessions was a motivating factor in becoming a registered massage therapist.
"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience."
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
Spiritually, that meant ongoing regular contact with other human beings and finding a nurturing connection with my Higher Power or Source.
Reconciling and rebuilding requires real effort, time and money. To be sure, recovery is learning to wield a sharp two edged sword that cuts both ways.
Ultimately, finding focus on a path of practicing healthy living skills takes time and there are no shortcuts.
Embracing Integrative Bodywork
As has been noted, becoming a registered massage therapist was inspired in large part from receiving bodywork in 1989.
During and after my training, I continued observing clients having completely different responses to therapeutic bodywork. Some clients were responding very well, while many others were experiencing little or no lasting relief.
Indeed, for certain types of clients, it was like I was going to the hardware store trying to buy milk. In short, I wasn't addressing their underlying issues.
Emotion Code Certification & Death of a Career
In 2009, I was gifted a book entitled "The Emotion Code" written by Bradley Nelson, DC. In essence, he was shouting what I had been missing. Above all, Dr. Nelson was saying that pain and dysfunction are often emotional and energetic in nature.
Learning and using the Emotion Code was just as impacting on me personally as had been receiving bodywork 20 years earlier. Becoming a Certified Emotion Code Practitioner in 2010, was the beginning of the end of my career as a massage therapist.
Again, I was scared and resisting the obvious next step of embracing a career in integrative bodywork. In short, I was sitting on the fence and lining myself up for additional choice points.
Getting My Attention & Body Code Certification
Subsequently, in January 2015, another choice point was delivered. It came disguised as being hit by a truck as a pedestrian. Ultimately, by November that year, I had completed training as a Certified Body Code Practitioner but I wasn't yet letting go of being a massage therapist.
Another choice point came June 2016, disguised as a detached retina in my left eye. In hindsight, rapidly going blind during that one week period was instrumental in helping me see what I had to do next. Thereafter, I started separating that professional labels have little or nothing to do with ones capacity for alleviating suffering and discomfort.
Finally in 2018, after 24-years in practice, I was surrendering my license as a massage therapist and fully moving forward in integrative bodywork.
- Hafen, Brent Q., Keith J. Karren, Kathryn J. Frandsen, N. Lee Smith. To Your Health - Gospel Perspectives on Nurturing the Mind, Body, and Spirit. American Fork: Covenant Communications, 1998. pp.10-11, 13-14